So you see from the slideshow above, that we keep ourselves pretty busy with many experiences. They've been to parks, road trips, other states, movie theaters, state parks, aquariums, Chuck E. Cheese's and all other things like that. We do play dates! We go shopping and out to eat. There is nothing we won't do for our kids. No matter what their abilities are, we still will give it a try. I've taken Hilo to a movie where he did awesome, and I've done another one where he wanted to stim the entire time. IT HAPPENS.
Why??
Hiding disabled people in homes or out of public only creates the larger void between the disabled community and the rest of society. They can be a part of the world as much as I can! Especially in terms of children, I believe that exposing children to all different types of people makes them more accepting and understanding. My own brother, who is younger than Hilo by two months, is very protective of Hilo and gives Hilo his space because he just somehow understands him. It isn't something he's been scolded about or told to do. He just does it. That's what makes some people so amazing. They just get it.
It's hard to go out in public, I know. A lot of you parents are probably getting stressed just thinking about the meltdowns or judgmental stares. Maybe people even say something to you? That is a hard circumstance to purposely choose to do, again. But what is stopping you? Are those strangers really worth the avoidance? I can't say that it is. I used to feel put on display when I'd feed my son through his feeding tube because people would notice it. They'd understand that he wasn't 'normal'. It made me feel, awkward. Now I've gotten to the point where I just think, "SO WHAT?". These people aren't parenting my kids. They aren't going to answer to my son when he gets older and asks, "Why didn't you take me to do this, or why don't we have any pictures of us doing stuff?". I cannot bear that on my shoulders. So lose that fear. Society's eyes don't have to worry about your children and how you raise them; they just want to gawk at something. To those people though, it's just fleeting moments. They don't even remember the next day! So why do you let those situations remain with you forever? Granted, we've had to slow down since Seamus' birth because he is a bit more sensitive but as he's gotten older, his tolerance is growing! Soon we'll be expanding our experiences with him just as we did with Hilo.Check out Our Instagram!
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AuthorGabrielle Rae is a special needs, stay at home mommy of two boys. She enjoys reading and writing novels in her spare time. @onbothfrontsArchives
August 2018
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